07 Dec 2004
A few weeks ago, I read an interesting article called Do It Now by Steve Pavlina:
When watching TV, read a computer magazine during commercials. If you're a male, read while shaving. I use an electric shaver and read during the 2-3 minutes it takes me to shave each day. This allows me to get through about two extra articles a week -- that's 100 extra articles a year, enough to keep up on a few monthly subscriptions.
When I read the passage above, I was slightly horrified. I don't mean any disrespect to the author; he is obviously a highly-organised, highly-motivated person who gets an enormous amount accomplished, and I have nothing but respect and admiration for that. My horror stemmed from the fact that I don't want this to happen to me. All of my organisational drives are towards one aim: to get the same amount of work done in less time and with less stress.
I don't want to do more work — I want more time to watch films, go for walks, spend time with my husband and friends, and more time to just daydream. If that sounds lazy, well, it probably is. However, I know from experience that when I have more of this 'pottering time', I'm more effective at work and more creative. Ideas seem to sidle up behind me and tap me on the shoulder when I'm doing something completely unrelated. If I sit down and actually try to think of new ideas, they elude me.
To explain how I got into this state, I need to tell you a story. When I was doing my PhD, I developed Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS). Of course, I didn't know what it was straight away. CFS is only diagnosed when you've had the same symptoms for more than six months, and after all the diagnostic tests for frightening and serious illnesses with the same symptoms have come back negative. What I did know was that I was so tired I could hardly move (even after a good night's sleep), I felt as if I was thinking through treacle1, and I had agonising pains in my joints and muscles that meant I couldn't get comfortable. If you imagine having 'flu (real influenza, not the kind of heavy cold you call 'flu to get a day off work) continuously for about a year, you'll come close to the experience.
In the midst of my illness, I remember lying on my bed, looking up at the ceiling. There was a one-story extension with a flat roof below my window, and the sunlight reflected in the pools of water on the roof and beamed shifting waves on my ceiling. I don't know how long I lay there, but I remember just observing. At times CFS gave me an odd feeling of detachment. While my body and brain had no energy for any action, I was still enough to observe myself objectively. I never (ever) want to go through the experience again — I have enormous sympathy for people who have to put up with far worse conditions for their whole lives — I'm very grateful that it happened. It made me look at my life in a different way, and treasure the simplicity and clarity that comes when you just stop. It was also almost worth it for the sheer joy and exhilaration I found in being able to use my body again, after I had started to get better. I remember jogging around a park in Oxford at dusk and feeling as if I knew where every blood cell was in my body.
That's why I don't want to read while brushing my teeth. I want to enjoy the experience of brushing my teeth and letting my mind drift about.
1 I remember using this exact phrase to describe the experience to someone when I was ill, and got a little jolt last week when I read an article by a fellow former sufferer who used exactly the same wording.
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Your description of CFS reminds me a great deal of a description I used for depression. Just replace "flu" with "really awful day". I definitely agree about leaving time to just sit and think, or look around. It's something I've always been good at. I used to wait during my brother's music lesson and just sit and think for an hour.by David Smith @ 07/12/2004 11:12 pm • Permalink
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Brilliant! Yes, while that article was inspiring, something about it bothered me as well, and you've crystallized it perfectly. I've only recently started (trying) getting up a little earlier so I can do all those mundane little morning chores a bit more slowly, and am seeing just the benefits you describe ("I want to enjoy the experience of brushing my teeth and letting my mind drift about."). It's amazing what kind of things you can figure out if you let yourself do one thing at a time in the morning. It sets me off on a good pace for doing one thing at a time the rest of the day, and I need all the positive reinforcement there that I can get.4
Pavlina has been all over the place at FURL, and, not having heard of the guy, I followed one of the links, and was summarily disappointed in his hard-chargin' attitude towards life, particularly in his description of having gotten through college. I wondered if he did any thinking at all while there, and whether some degrees are based on nothing but memorisation and formulae. Robert Crumb's description of Whiteman could hardly find a better proponent. Pavlina may have accomplished a lot, and he has some ideas I agree with (be flexible), but his approach smacks of a one-size-fits-all approach to challenges, regardless of whether they are simple or complex. His ideas about clarity run counter to my own sense of curiosity about the world, and my explorations of it. Pavlina is goal-oriented where I am process oriented. He is happy to dismiss anything that's not specifically relevent to building his business. I am happy to stop and smell the roses.5
Well put, bsag. These days I'm more of a DTP (doing things properly) man than a GTD one! This came to me after a serious illness (and also after becoming a dad, the two not being unrelated)...by pete @ 08/12/2004 11:12 am • Permalink
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"Life through a thick pane of glass" was the best description I heard during the 'depressed days'. Anyway, I totally agree. I quite enjoy sitting watching rain running down the window now and again. Same as I enjoy shaving (well aside from the frequency aspect of it). I'm sure I COULD read 100 magazines a year but he's missing the point. I don't HAVE to.7
SB: I know that it's very hard to believe in the middle of it, but it is possible to get better. Saltation:8
Test. The last comment I sent did not go through because I was missing the Email and URI fields. Retyping...by Mark O @ 13/12/2004 1:13 am • Permalink
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bsag, you were right to be horrified at that passage. Pavlina is selling poison, and it's a shame that people are buying it. First of all, shaving should be done with a razor, and done with concentration. I find it to be a rewarding experience in itself. Second, most magazines are worthless - short, shallow articles, packed with ads, endlessly repetitious month after month. I would do away with most of them. Lastly, if you are looking for something to do during TV commercials, I have three suggestions: 1) Get a Tivo and skip commercials. 2) Press the pause button and talk to the person next to you. 3) Get rid of your TV, or at least your cable. Almost any activity would be a better use of your time. Especially if you are worried about having enough time to take care of all your daily commitments. Eliminating TV would be a good first step towards improving your situation.by Mark O @ 13/12/2004 2:12 am • Permalink
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Oh, and great web site. -----by Mark O @ 13/12/2004 2:13 am • Permalink
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From <u>The Art of Loving</u>, by Erich Fromm: "That concentration is a necessary condition for the mastery of an art is hardly necessary to prove. Anyone who ever tried to learn an art knows this. Yet, even more than self-discipline, concentration is rare in our culture. On the contrary, our culture leads to an unconcentrated and diffused mode of life, hardly paralleled anywhere else. You do many things at once; you read, listen to the radio, talk, smoke, eat, drink. You are the consumer with the open mouth, eager and ready to swallow everything--pictures, liquor, knowledge. This lack of concentration is clearly shown in our difficulty in being alone with ourselves. To sit still, without talking, smoking, reading, drinking, is impossible for most people. They become nervous and figety, and must do something with their mouth or their hands. (Smoking is one of the symptoms of this lack of concentration; it occupies hand, mouth, eye and nose.)" "To be concentrated in relation to others means primarily to be able to listen. Most people listen to others, or even give advice, without really listening. They do not take the other person's talk seriously, they do not take their own answers seriously either. As a result, the talk makes them tired. They are under the illusion that they would be even more tired if they listened with concentration. But the opposite is true. Any activity, if done in a concentrated fashion, makes one more awake (although afterward natural and beneficial tiredness sets in), while every unconcentrated activity makes one sleepy--while at the same time it makes it difficult to fall asleep at the end of the day." "Sleep is the only proper situation for inactivity; the state of awakeness is one in which laziness should have no place. The paradoxical situation with a vast number of people today is that they are half asleep when awake, or half awake when asleep, or when they want to sleep. To be fully awake is the condition for not being bored, or being boring--and indeed, not to be bored or boring is one of the main conditions for loving." This book was published in 1956. Can you agree with me that the themes of these passages are even more true today, with TV and consumption more pervasive than ever?by Mark O @ 13/12/2004 2:13 am • Permalink
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I have lost my belief in Steve Pavlina, after reading this. It's funny that I was a total worshiper of Steve, but after reading this I realized how narrow my perspective was. http://nicevilblogs.wordpress.com/2006/07/25/stevepavlinacom Open your eyes.13
~ Hmm., is this the same fellow who propounds updating his blog, working on his journaling, catching up on his latest RSS feeds all while making Love to his Wife., while SHE simultaneously checks her e-mail and chats with potential clients?!?! Now THAT is one PRODUCTIVE couple~! They sure know how to work together., Or am I mistaken and thinking of someone else.,?by AK @ 07/12/2007 9:33 pm • Permalink
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Stevepavlina, Saint or Scam ? Further discussion on this link. http://nicevilblogs.wordpress.com/2006/07/25/stevepavlinacom/ Please check it out, and give your real honest opinions about Steve's website. It's sad that Steve does not give his readers a chance to voice out their real opinions. All the comment postings are closed before any real discussions can be made.by Alexandria @ 09/03/2008 10:28 pm • Permalink
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Your taking his words out of context and killing the whole point he was trying to make!!! Anyone can criticise anothers blog or point of view. Its about personal development, so his aim is to motivate readers to actually do something about ourselves, and he does that very well!!! Some in direct ways, some in indirect ways, by just inspiring everyone who reads with an open mind! Im sure even Steve agrees with spending more time with his family! Thats the whole point of him encouraging online businesses!!!!! He clearly says that.by Selman @ 31/03/2008 6:59 pm • Permalink
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I was once very involved in personal growth, reading books, watching programs, listening to audiobooks and so on. These self-help gurus proclaim to have found the way to a perfect life and they offer their help to millions of unsatisfied people, desperately desiring something better for themselves. The truth is, however, that you know all the answers beforehand, you already know how to live a better life, you just feel better hearing it from a self-proclaimed self-help guru, over and over again, buying books, audio programs and videos to help you 'change your life'. I sure have changed my life, but only after I stopped reading self-help books. I feel as I have been set free. I'm not worried anymore that I constantly have to be achieving something great, that I'm not happy enough or that I don't have relationships that are fulfilling enough. I'm happy the way I am. Personally, I would never want to dedicate my life to personal growth, as Steve Pavlina has. It is a never-ending pursuit of something that cannot ever be achieved, the perfect life. Life spent in such a way is, to me, a meaningless life.by Eyþór Björnsson @ 06/04/2008 9:47 pm • Permalink
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i think you guys have totally missed the point of the advice Steve gives, as you make his advice sound very rigid. This article is clearly directed at people who aspire to being very effective. In his article he does not accuse anyone of laziness if they do not read between commercials or while shaving. I think you'll find your only attacking him for this article because it does not fit your own desires. For someone who lives a very pressured life style where time is very important, reading those articles while shaving might allow them learn about something their highly interested or is related to their job. In short, don't attack it because it does not apply to you.by josh @ 01/05/2008 7:21 pm • Permalink
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by SG @ 17/05/2008 12:56 am • Permalink
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Great article - and I agree with you that it is horrifying to try to cram more into our lives - to what purpose? Mark O - you are right on about TV. Just get rid of it. We did - almost completely. Only have a DVD player right now. However, even that it getting too much. "One cannot kill time without injuring Eternity" . . .by AnneT @ 29/05/2008 1:48 pm • Permalink
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You describe this very well, and offer hope for those of us not yet recovered. & how true, the importance of slowing, even stopping, to look.----- Ah now, you're assuming you're trying to actually get something DONE. Measuring Worth by Quantity is far more normal for humans. Yes, as anyone who's ever done work with an objective yardstick will agree/testify, stopping and starting is VASTLY more effective in real-life than is continuous effort.by Saltation @ 07/12/2004 9:13 pm • Permalink